HOW DID WE GET HERE? A Personal Reflection From My Bookshelf

How I Found Myself Here, With a Book in My Hands.

I didn’t grow up “a reader.”

I was the girl who preferred listening, lessons, conversations, debates; anything that didn’t require me to sit still and turn pages. The irony of it all was that my father was a librarian and yet I dreaded any book talks.

Never in my life did I dream of becoming a reader but somewhere along the line, I found myself falling in love with words, starting with writing.

Writing gave me space to be vulnerable and to honestly interrogate the world and myself.

It led to my first book, then to guest blogging, and now to my personal blog.

For a while, I felt so fulfilled, but life happened, and somewhere along the way, I lost that girl and my spark. I didn't know how to even begin to deal with all of that, but I finally reached a point where I needed to confront it all. This book, this particular title, stopped me and prompted deep reflection.

How Did We Get Here?

A question I had been asking myself quietly for a while.

I didn’t Google the reviews. I didn’t want someone else’s voice shaping my expectations.

I saw the title and said to myself, “If this book doesn’t speak to what I’m looking for, maybe nothing will.”

It didn’t disappoint.

Mpumi doesn’t just write about events and echoes that travel through families, faith, and memory.

Reflections I’m Carrying Forward

• Pain can be inherited, but so can healing.

• Boundaries are protection, not punishment.

• Shrinking to remain acceptable isn’t survival, it’s self-abandonment.

• Money is not the enemy, fear is.

• Worthiness must settle internally before it ever shows externally.

  
  

Personal Commitments

This book helped me see something clearly:

Healing is not an apology; it’s a choice, and I am choosing it.

• I will not shrink for comfort.

• I will guard my peace.

• I will ask the tough questions.

• I will unlock abundance with courage.

• I will heal, for the generation after me.

  
  

“If you believe you are worthy, half the job is done.”

Who This Book Is For

This book is for the woman:

• Rebuilding herself.

• In her healing era.

• Trying to regain her spark.

• Seeking to address the root, not just the reaction.

• Feeling misaligned with the life she lives.

  
  

If you, like me, ever asked: “How did I get here?”

This book may help you find your way back home.